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Already Broken your New Year’s Resolutions?

Happy new year guys!

Today is the 15 of January, and according to research, this is the day by which most people have already broken their new year’s resolutions. Can you believe that??? Most people’s new year’s resolutions last 15 days! There’s other research that says the 24th of January, which is slightly better, but still awful.

So…if you’ve already broken your resolutions, I want to tell you that it doesn’t make you a failure, it doesn’t make you a bad person. Maybe you just didn’t plan enough, or you didn’t anticipate a certain setback you’ve experienced, or you haven’t made it compelling enough. Here are 4 tips for getting back on track (You can either watch the below video or carry on reading below):

1. Regroup

It’s one thing to fall off track, it’s another thing to abandon your resolution and your goal altogether. Giving up on a resolution just because you’ve fallen off track is like smashing your phone just because you’ve dropped it. If you drop your phone you don’t stamp on it and smash it to pieces. You pick it up, because it’s useful. Because it’s something of value.

Your goals and your vision are valuable. If you’ve dropped the ball, pick it up. Regroup. Think about what you’ve done wrong and how you can do better. If it’s a diet goal, are you being too drastic? Are you focused on what you’re not allowed to do rather than the benefits? Let’s say you want to lose ten pounds. Are you focused on all the don’ts?

Don’t eat chocolate.

Don’t have ice cream.

No donuts.

Or are you focused on the goal and getting yourself excited about it? Getting excited about the body you want and the positive improvement in your health that it’ll give you?

2. Remind yourself of your reasons

Why do you want to lose that weight? Why do you want to wake up at 5am? Why did you decide to stop drinking? Why do you want to work harder? Why do you want to read through the whole bible?

How will it change your life, your family’s life, your future?

Hold your reasons in your mind and it will fire you up to act.

3. Refine your vision

You refine your vision by seeing your destination. See where you want to be on December 31st of this year. Engage your imagination. Stop looking at the things that stand in the way, the things that have caused you to already get off track, and look at the endpoint. You go in the direction of what you focus on. What are your looking at? The here and now, or that destination that you want?

A wise person once said, ‘Only those who can see the invisible will achieve the impossible’. And if you’re saying, ‘Hold up, Dayo. I’m not trying to achieve the impossible here. I just want to lose some weight, I just want to stick to my bible reading plan, I just want to be nicer to my kids.’ I hear you. But if you’re not already doing it, it means it’s been impossible for you so far. Maybe you’ve managed to do it in the past, but right now, it’s become impossible. Refine your vision and start looking at the invisible. Talk to yourself and claim the behaviours you want in your life. Tell yourself, ‘I like to drink water and eat healthy food; I work out on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays; I read my bible every morning; I wake up at five am every day and pursue my priorities; I am a loving and patient parent.’

It may not be true just yet, but guess what? Give it some time and you’ll start moving in that direction. Your behaviour will adjust to match your new beliefs and you’ll begin to move in the direction of that vision that you’ve decided to focus on.

Some people will say that’s being fake, but it isn’t being fake. It’s faith. It’s being like God who calls the things that are not as though they are. That’s Romans 4:17 and it means that God sees the mighty man of valor in Gideon while he’s threshing wheat in secret, hiding from the Midianites. He sees the great king in David while he’s a mere shepherd boy. He sees the mother of a mighty nation in Sarah while she’s still barren. All of these people through whom God worked in Bible times had to have faith and get in alignment with the vision.

The Shunammite woman in 2 Kings 4 had just lost her son. He’d died. But she said ‘it is well,’ not ‘he’s dead’, because that was the vision she had about the situation. And things did turn out well in the end.

Refine your vision. Look at the invisible. Things will begin to change.

4. Regular review

Review your resolutions regularly if you want to stay on track. It’s up to you how often you want to review them. For my writing goals, I record how many words I’ve written in a spreadsheet every single day and that’s a kind of review for me that helps me ensure that I’m being productive.

For all my other goals (non-writing ones) I review myself weekly on Sundays. After church my kids go to their grandparents house, me and my husband have a nice meal and hang out, then at some point before I go to the evening service I make some time to review the week and see where I fell short, where I did well, and plan my action points/to-do’s for the coming week.

If you’ve already dropped the ball with your new year resolutions, pick it back up. Dribble it. And determine to slam dunk it by December 31st 🙂 And if you’re still on track well done, keep going and may God prosper all our endeavours.

I’ll have a book update for you soon so watch this space.

God bless.

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3 Reasons to Prepare for the New Year

Hey guys,

I’m back with another post about getting ready for the new year. (You can either watch the video or skip below if you prefer to read).

I’m one of those super future-focused people so I’ve been thinking about next year since around the end of October (no kidding). And I’m not saying it’s necessarily good to be like that. Being so future-focused isn’t always a good thing because I feel it can cause you to miss out on today because you’re so focused on tomorrow.

But January is just around the corner so it’s definitely time to start thinking about next year if you haven’t already. It’s good to plan and prepare. You shouldn’t wait until next year to decide what to do next year. Well, I guess you could do that, and it’s better late than never. But it’s also better early than late 🙂

Proverbs 24:27 says: Do your planning and prepare your fields before building your house (NLT).

We want to build in this coming year. We want to develop. We want to grow and achieve. And the Bible is telling us that those things are good, but before you build, you need to plan and prepare.

So here are my 3 Reasons to prepare for the New Year:

1. Hit the ground running

Thorough preparation enables you to hit the ground running. I’ll give you a personal example of this. I’ve decided I want to share what I learn from my daily Bible reading with you guys next year using videos. I want to move away from blogging because I’m not very good at it, so I’ll be trying video blogs. So, daily Bible reading starts on January 1st. Now if I wait until January 1st to get started I’ll be behind because I would’ve done no preparation. I wouldn’t have bought a good enough camera, I wouldn’t have bought a camera tripod stand, and I wouldn’t have learned basic video editing. But I’ve been thinking about it and getting all the necessary gadgets together since October so I’m better prepared. And when January 1st comes around I can hit the ground running instead of wasting time trying to figure everything out.

So think about it. What do you need to do? Prepare for it now and put things in place so that you can just cut to the chase and get started.

2. Momentum

We all want to turn our lives around in the New Year. We all want next year to be amazing. We all want it to be a year of destiny, deliverance, promotion, progress. We all want to make positive changes next year. But here’s a news flash: We don’t have to wait for next year before we make positive changes. We can start experiencing deliverance and promotion and progress right now. The 1st of January really is no different to any other day. We can reflect now and start making positive changes right now and then when January rolls around we already have momentum.

3. Preparation is Positioning

But guess what? Lack of preparation is also positioning. Every action you take or don’t take is positioning. Lack of preparation is positioning you to stay on that hamster wheel that is going nowhere. To stay on that rocking chair and that treadmill, generating motion but no change of location, no transportation to anything new. Plenty of motion but no movement, no growth. Just the same old rhythm and the same old place spiritually, physically, healthwise, maritally, career-wise. Your preparation will determine your position. You either prepare and thereby position yourself for new and positive things, or you fail to prepare and position yourself for the same old status quo.

The choice is yours.

So those are three reasons to prepare for the new year. I hope you they’ve inspired you to get preparing. I’ll be back soon with another post on how to prepare for the new year. I’ve just told you why; next I’ll tell you how 🙂

God bless xx