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New Year Planning: 6 Questions to Review the Outgoing Year

Hey guys, hope you’re all well!

It’s that time of year where we’re looking forward to a new year, so I’ve been doing a lot of planning and goal setting (since October actually – I know, I’m strange, ha ha). But I really believe in planning. It’s so important. We want next year to be better than this year, and in order to make that happen, we have to be intentional.

I’ve recorded a video about reviewing the year/new year planning, but if you prefer to read text continue reading below the video 🙂

https://youtu.be/75b7pKbp7y0

Whether this year has been good, or not so good, we want next year to be better. We want to make progress, spiritually, maritally, career-wise, with our kids, in our ministries, in our health.

But, before planning for next year, it’s important to first reflect on this year. If you want to go somewhere, if you want to move forward you first need to know where you are right now. Your satnav (GPS if you’re American 🙂 ) can only tell you where to go because it knows your current location. And you need to know your current location if you want to move forward. You need to take some time to reflect.

It’s important to look back, and I think looking back has negative connotations among Christians because we’re thinking of Lot’s wife who looked back, but there are certain situations where looking back is not only okay, it’s essential.

For example, when you’re driving, you definitely need to be forward focused, but you need to use your rearview mirror from time to time before you make decisions about whether to switch lanes, turn a corner, or reverse. And that’s what reflection does. You’re giving yourself the opportunity to work out what road you’re on and what destination you’re heading towards. Then you can decide whether to switch lanes or even reverse and turn around.

In Haggai 1:5-7 the bible says: Now therefore, thus says the Lord of hosts: “Consider your ways! “You have sown much, and bring in little; You eat, but do not have enough; You drink, but you are not filled with drink; You clothe yourselves, but no one is warm; And he who earns wages, earns wages to put into a bag with holes.” Thus says the Lord of hosts: “Consider your ways!

And that’s what we want to do. Now is the time, as this year rolls out, to take a moment and work out where you are, how you got there and what to do about it; whether to switch lanes, back up or stay on course.

So, here are some questions to aid your self-reflection and your reflection on this outgoing year. They’ve been useful for me, so I hope they’re useful for you too.

But before we get to the questions let me just say, this isn’t supposed to turn into a pity party, or make you sink into depression. The purpose of this exercise is to help you move forward. Whatever happened this year is done. We’re doing this in order to move forward.

Another purpose of this exercise is to stir up gratitude. I’m certain that lots of things went well for you this year so as you reflect, take a moment to thank God for that.

So, here are the questions:

  1. What were the main high points this year? Choose two or three things.

It’s always good to start positive, so think about the main good things about 2017 that stand out for you.

  1. Go through the year month by month and write down something good that happened that month.

These can be simple things, for example, maybe in January it was your birthday and you had a good time, in February your boss complimented you on a piece of work, in March you learned something new about God or about a particular scripture…

Go through the whole year and write down one good thing that happened each month.

  1. In what ways did you improve or grow as an individual this year?

Did you get a degree or other qualification? Were you a more faithful steward at work this year? Did you grow in loving your spouse unconditionally rather than only being loving if you felt they deserved it? Did you pray more this year and get closer to God? Did you volunteer at church, or stay committed to a ministry? It doesn’t matter what it is. Is there any evidence of growth in your life this year.

  1. What didn’t go so well?

So we’ve talked about the highlights. Now it’s time to talk about the lowlights? In which areas did you regress or just not make as much progress as you should have?

  1. What mistakes did you make this year, and more importantly what did you learn from them? How can you prevent making such mistakes again in future?

We all make mistakes so let’s not beat ourselves down about it. Let’s learn from them and work out how to prevent making similar mistakes in the future.

  1. What did you hope, on January 1st of this year, to have achieved by now? Have you done those things? If so, what has the result been? If not, what hindered you?

So this is where we really begin to dig a little deeper. Even if you didn’t set goals for this year, I’m sure there are things that you wanted to achieve. Did you achieve them? Why, or why not? This is important because if you’re able to identify the reasons why you didn’t achieve the things you wanted to achieve you can address those issues and make sure they don’t hold you back in the coming year. Also, on the flip side, if you’re able to identify why you were able to achieve the things you did achieve, you can use it as a formula to keep achieving next year.

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So those are my six tips for reviewing the year. I hope you found them helpful. I’m in a super motivated mood with all this goal-setting stuff so I’ll be back soon with another post about preparing for the new year.

In writing news, I finished writing the next Lincoln book this morning. It’s called The Chef and it’s Locke’s story, but I’m going to sit on it for a while as I may need to add more to it to set up the next few brothers’ books

God bless 😉

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Out Now: The Physician (The Lincolns 6)

Hello Lovelies 🙂

The Physician (The Lincolns 6) has gone live!!!

Get your copy at: Amazon, iBooks, Kobo, Smashwords (coming soon to B&N)

I’m so excited about this book. I can’t wait for you guys to read it.

Here’s the Back Cover Blurb for anyone who hasn’t read it yet:

The murder he can’t remember
New Christian, Rebel Lincoln, is horrified to wake up in a hotel room next to a dead body and with no memory of how he got there. Being a Christian is supposed to invite peace, love, and joy into his life, right? So why has Rebel’s life suddenly taken such a disastrous turn?

The girl who got away
Forensic scientist, Daisy Bell, met Rebel months ago on his brother’s yacht. They connected, but she has too many issues and too many secrets, so she gave him a fake number and they lost touch. Now, she is investigating his case and needs to be cool and detached—but heat simmers beneath the surface. She believes him when he says he’s been framed, but could her judgment be clouded by his pretty, blue eyes?

The right thing at the wrong time
Daisy is everything Rebel wants in a woman, and her sassy attitude only makes him crave her more. But with the ongoing murder investigation, the timing couldn’t be worse. She’s the only person who believes in his innocence, but as the pressure mounts and new evidence is revealed Rebel is driven to desperation. And desperate actions can cause even those who love you to leave you.
Rebel didn’t realize becoming a Christian would invite so much madness into his life. So many of his brothers have gone before him so he expected an easy ride. But there is nothing easy about life right now. Someone is out to destroy him. That someone must be unmasked or Rebel is headed to jail and can forget about ever winning Daisy’s heart.

Who has framed Rebel Lincoln?

Here are the download links again: AmazoniBooksKoboSmashwords (coming soon to B&N)

In the below video I talk about the scriptures that inspired the book. Click Here to subscribe to me on YouTube and get all my video updates as soon as I post them.

https://youtu.be/YvU_6ZcBJQA

So…I hope you enjoy Rebel’s and Daisy’s story. This is me right now, relieved that I’m done with this book and can move on to the next one 🙂

 

 

By the way, I’ve finally joined Instagram. I’ve been resisting it for a while but I’ve taken the plunge, ha ha. You can find me on Instagram by Clicking Here (I follow back 🙂 )

God bless xx

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The Physician – Back Cover Blurb

Hi people,

Happy Thanksgiving to any Americans reading 🙂

So, I promised, yesterday, to post the back cover blurb for The Physician today. And…here it is:

The murder he can’t remember
New Christian, Rebel Lincoln, is horrified to wake up in a hotel room next to a dead body and with no memory of how he got there. Being a Christian is supposed to invite peace, love, and joy into his life, right? So why has Rebel’s life suddenly taken such a disastrous turn?

The girl who got away
Forensic scientist, Daisy Bell, met Rebel months ago on his brother’s yacht. They connected, but she has too many issues and too many secrets, so she gave him a fake number and they lost touch. Now, she is investigating his case and needs to be cool and detached—but heat simmers beneath the surface. She believes him when he says he’s been framed, but could her judgment be clouded by his pretty, blue eyes?

The right thing at the wrong time
Daisy is everything Rebel wants in a woman, and her sassy attitude only makes him crave her more. But with the ongoing murder investigation, the timing couldn’t be worse. She’s the only person who believes in his innocence, but as the pressure mounts and new evidence is revealed Rebel is driven to desperation. And desperate actions can cause even those who love you to leave you.
Rebel didn’t realize becoming a Christian would invite so much madness into his life. So many of his brothers have gone before him so he expected an easy ride. But there is nothing easy about life right now. Someone is out to destroy him. That someone must be unmasked or Rebel is headed to jail and can forget about ever winning Daisy’s heart.

Who has framed Rebel Lincoln?

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I had a lot of fun writing The Physician. I really hope you guys enjoy it 🙂 About the release date, I’m thinking it’ll be sometime early next week. Say, Tuesday (Nov. 28th) 🙂

God bless xx

P.S. If you haven’t already, watch the below video to find out more about The Physician and the main theme of the book.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YvU_6ZcBJQA

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Cover Reveal – The Physician (The Lincolns 6)

Hi Peeps,

The next Lincoln book, The Physician, is almost ready to be released 🙂 🙂 🙂

This will be my last book for this year. Then I think I might hibernate for a while (maybe around 6 months) and get the rest of the series all written before I publish the next book. I could change my mind about this, but at the moment, that’s what I’m inclined to do.

Anyway, to find out more about The Physician, watch the below video. I talk about some of the scriptures that inspired the book (I’ll be posting the back cover blurb tomorrow).

https://youtu.be/YvU_6ZcBJQA

If you don’t like watching videos, here’s a summary of what I said:

The Physician is Rebel Lincoln’s book and it was good to write about Rebel because he’s a little bit different from the other Lincoln brothers that I’ve written about so far. He’s kind of mellow and easy-going, but he’s also got this really impulsive side to him. You’ll see what I mean when you read the book 🙂

The heroine’s name is Daisy. You guys met her in The Model (The Lincolns 2). She’s one of Keltie’s friends who goes to Ash Lincoln’s yacht with Keltie, so reread that scene from The Model and reacquaint yourself with Daisy.

At the beginning of each Lincoln book I usually have a Scripture which serves as the controlling idea or main theme for the book. For The Physician I took my inspiration from  Matthew 10:21-37 where Jesus is talking about how he didn’t come to bring peace, and oftentimes when somebody accepts Jesus into their lives it makes them a target and can cause strain in their closest relationships.

Matthew 10:21-22 says, ‘Now brother will deliver up brother to death, and a father his child; and children will rise up against parents and cause them to be put to death. And you will be hated by all for My name’s sake. But he who endures to the end will be saved.’

And verse 36 says, ‘a man’s enemies will be those of his own household.’

if you’re in a family where your spouse is saved, your parents are saved, your siblings and your children are saved, you should be extremely grateful to God because not everyone has that. Sometimes, taking a stand for Christ or making the decision to become a Christian causes strain in your close relationships. Imagine a situation where a woman becomes a Christian, but her husband is a Muslim. How is that going to work out? Or a child becomes a Christian but their parents are staunch atheists. Or maybe they’re not even atheists, but they just don’t believe in God and they don’t understand why you’ve changed. Why you’re not doing certain things anymore. Why you’re going to church and talking about Jesus all the time. What do you do?

Matthew 10:37 says, ‘He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me: and he who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me.’

Jesus gave everything for us. Are we willing to endure anything for Him?

Now, in case you’re one of those lucky people whose whole family is saved. For you it might not be your love for Jesus that’s the issue. Your issue might be doing God’s will, stepping out in faith, following God’s lead. Maybe God has told you to do something, but you know that the people around you, who are fellow Christians, will be against it, or they might not understand why you’re doing it. Could you obey God anyway? Could you do what God says regardless of what anyone thinks?

Matthew 10:38 says, ‘he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me.’

What is your cross? What has serving God cost you? What relationships have been strained as a result of your decision to follow Jesus or step out in faith? God sees, and He appreciates every sacrifice we make in order to put Him first. I want to encourage you to keep carrying that cross, keep putting Him first. In The Physician some crazy things happen as a result of Rebel’s decision to follow Jesus, and I know that’s true for many real people in real life. The Physician is fiction, but the issues are real.

Make sure you get your copy when it comes out. I hope it encourages your faith. I hope it solidifies your resolve to live for Jesus no matter what it’s going to cost you. And I hope it encourages you to take that step of faith that He’s calling you to take.

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Ciao xx

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Out Now: The Designer

The Designer (The Lincolns 5) is out guys. Get your copy at:

AmazoniBooks, KoboSmashwords

To find out more about the book and read the synopsis, CLICK HERE and read the blog I posted yesterday.

I’m excited about this book. We’re making progress in the Lincolns’ series. Each brother is getting his own book so I need to get my act together and get the rest of them written. In light of that…

I need your opinion

When you finish reading The Designer, I would love for you to email me (dayo@dayobenson.com) or post a comment here and let me know which of the Lincoln books is your favourite/least favourite so far. I want to know what your personal ‘Lincoln Books League Table’ looks like. I really want the Lincoln books to keep getting better as the series progresses, so your opinion will really help me with working out which of the books are resonating and what kind of books I need to write as I continue the series 🙂

Thanks in advance.

Here are the links for The Designer again: AmazoniBooksKoboSmashwords (coming soon to B&N).

God bless.

Dayo xx

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All About The Designer

So, it’s been a few months since the last Lincoln book. I kind of took a little break while I finished off The Dare series. But the Lincolns are back 🙂 🙂 🙂

In the last book, Nigel, the head of Lincoln Entertainment was on the run with one of his singers, Andie, whose life was in danger. If you haven’t read it, get your copy at Amazon UKAmazon USB&NiTunesKobo, or Smashwords and get up to date.

In fact, if you haven’t started the Lincoln series yet, what are you waiting for??? Book 5 is about to drop so you’ve got lots of catching up to do.

Anyway…how about I introduce you to the main characters of The Designer?

Taye Lincoln is the bad boy boss who thinks that if you want a promotion you need to be willing to do whatever it takes to get it…

Kara Sinclair is the good girl with a past who is done with being treated like an object by men. Yes, she wants a promotion but not if there are strings attached.

He’s used to getting his way. She’s pushy, independent and stubborn and isn’t about to let him have his way.

As always there’s a lot of drama going on among the brothers, apart from the happenings between the hero and heroine. Taye and his full brother, Hades, have wanted to kill Jared, the eldest brother, since book 1 (The Lincoln Manifesto). In this book an opportunity to do so presents itself. Jared killed their mother eight years ago. They want nothing more than to avenge her.

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Here’s the Back Cover Blurb:

If you want to keep your job you really shouldn’t slap your boss…
…Even if he’s an arrogant jerk who won’t quit making unwanted advances.
Kara Sinclair has been resisting the strange pull she feels towards Taye Lincoln since the day she began working at his fashion house, LB Couture. But circumstances throw them together. Taye’s life is in danger, and she may be the only person who can point him towards a solution.

If you want to stay a practitioner, don’t fall in love with a Christian woman…
…Even if she’s irresistible. And even if her prayers are the only source of protection from the shadowy murderers trying to kill you.
Taye Lincoln is trying to evade death, resist Kara and the Christianity she touts, while also seeking vengeance on his half-brother, Jared, who killed his mom eight years ago. Jared is in trouble with some powerful practitioners and has been disabled. This may be the only opportunity for revenge that Taye will ever get. But with all that’s going on, will he be able to take it?
And will Kara, who believes in loving your enemies rather than seeking revenge, ever forgive him if he does?

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It’ll be out soon. Maybe even by tomorrow, because I just hit publish on Amazon, iBooks, Kobo and all the other places 🙂

God bless xx

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Out Now: The Gamble (The Dare 3)

The Gamble is out now, peeps 🙂

Get your copy at: Amazon UKAmazon USKobo & Smashwords. (Coming soon to iBooks and Nook).

CLICK HERE to watch a video of me talking about it. And in case you’ve missed my previous emails about it, here’s the back cover blurb:

Love never gives up
Marshal: Maybe I’m crazy, but I can’t let Sloane go. She’s at an all-time low and Miss World is coming up, but she doesn’t have a game plan. I’ve helped her in the past so Miss World might just be my opportunity to win her heart again. This time, I’m not going to let her go.

Parents know what’s best
Eli: Marshal still hasn’t gotten over his pathetic crush on Sloane. As his father it’s my duty to do what’s best for him. Even if it means further ruining Sloane’s already messed up life, and even if it means that Marshal will hate me forever.

My life is a nightmare that I can’t wake up from
Sloane: I thought I hit rock bottom last summer, but this is a whole new level of defeat. I let Marshal get under my skin again and that choice has blown up in my face. Life is crushing me. I’m drowning. And I don’t know how to save myself.

 

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If you haven’t read the first two books of the series yet, here are links for them:

The Dare

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Available at: Amazon UK, AMAZON US, BARNES & NobleiBooksKobo & Smashwords

The Bet

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Available at: Amazon UKAmazon USB&NiTunesKobo, & Smashwords

I hope you enjoy them. I’m off to work on The Designer now, the next book in my Lincolns series 🙂

God bless.

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Cover Reveal – The Gamble

Here it is guys, the cover for The Gamble (The Dare 3). Isn’t it great 🙂 Another A+ for my husband who designed it.

So, I thought I’d release it this week, but one of my beta readers got back to me with quite a few things to consider so I’m going to take a step back from the book and see whether I want to change anything or leave it as it is. Also, after reviewing the edited version it still has quite a few typos in it so I might send it for a second edit.

Anyhow, it’ll be out this month.

Thanks for your patience 🙂

Here’s the synopsis:

Love never gives up

Marshal: Maybe I’m crazy, but I can’t let Sloane go. She’s at an all-time low and Miss World is coming up, but she doesn’t have a game plan. I’ve helped her in the past, so Miss World might just be my opportunity to win her heart. Again. This time, I’m not going to let her go.

Parents know what’s best

Eli: Marshal still hasn’t gotten over his pathetic crush on Sloane. As his father, it’s my duty to do what’s best for him. Even if it means further ruining Sloane’s already messed up life. Even if it means that Marshal will hate me forever.

My life is a nightmare that I can’t wake up from

Sloane: I thought I hit rock bottom last summer, but this is a whole new level of defeat. I let Marshal get under my skin again and that choice has blown up in my face. Life is crushing me. I’m drowning. And I don’t know how to save myself.

Coming Soon…

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Easter/Upcoming Book: The Gamble

A belated ‘Happy Easter’ from me 🙂 I hope you had a good one.

Easter was pretty busy for me. We had a three-day retreat at my church, which was nice and soul-refreshing.

My daughter, Esther, is only just learning how to write her name, and anytime we went shopping she’d grab my hand and say ‘mummy, look! That’s my name.’ She wasn’t impressed when her big sister, Rhema, informed her that all the signs say ‘Easter’ not ‘Esther.’ This is her wearing her Easter bonnet for school 🙂

Easter Monday was mine and my husband’s seven-year wedding anniversary, so we went to Spain for a few days. It was so lovely and warm. When we got back last week it was 7 degrees (Celsius) where we live. We wanted to get back onto the plane :-S

Anyway, I have book news. I’m releasing The Gamble (The Dare 3) very soon. Either this week or next week. I’ll keep you posted. Make sure you’ve signed up for my mailing list so that you get my email alert the minute it goes live. It’s the final book in the series so for those of you who are waiting for all three books to be out before starting the series, now is the time to get on board and join the rollercoaster ride that is Sloane’s and Marshal’s relationship.

Here’s the back cover blurb for The Gamble:

Love never gives up

Marshal: Maybe I’m crazy, but I can’t let Sloane go. She’s at an all-time low and Miss World is coming up, but she doesn’t have a game plan. I’ve helped her in the past, so Miss World might just be my opportunity to win her heart. Again. This time, I’m not going to let her go.

Parents know what’s best

Eli: Marshal still hasn’t gotten over his pathetic crush on Sloane. As his father, it’s my duty to do what’s best for him. Even if it means further ruining Sloane’s already messed up life. Even if it means that Marshal will hate me forever.

My life is a nightmare that I can’t wake up from

Sloane: I thought I hit rock bottom last summer, but this is a whole new level of defeat. I let Marshal get under my skin again and that choice has blown up in my face. Life is crushing me, I’m drowning, and I don’t know how to save myself.

Coming Soon 🙂

Get up to date with the Dare series before The Gamble comes out

Get your copy of book 1, The Dare, at: Amazon UK, AMAZON US, BARNES & NobleiBooksKobo & Smashwords

 

 

 

 

 

Get your copy of book 2, The Bet, at: Amazon UKAmazon USB&NiTunesKoboSmashwords

 

I’ll post the cover for The Gamble soon 🙂

God bless.

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Out Now: The Bet & The Record Boss

They’re out guys!!!
2 New Releases: The Bet & The Record Boss 🙂
 
I’ve sent out my email alerts to everyone on my mailing list and asked which book they’re going to read first. So far most people have said The Bet. Which one will you read first?
 
The Bet
The sin of a leader is a leading sin, and there’s no more important leader than a parent. What will Sloane do about her mom’s secret?
Get your copy of The Bet now at: Amazon UKAmazon USB&NiTunesKoboSmashwords.
 
The Record Boss
Nigel Lincoln is trying to protect Andie Rose from powerful people who want her dead. But how do you help someone who thinks she can help herself? And how do you love someone who continually drives you crazy?
Get your copy of The Record Boss now at: Amazon UKAmazon USB&NiTunesKoboSmashwords.
Whichever one you choose to read first I hope you enjoy them both 🙂
God bless.

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